| MARRIAGE MYTH #6 PASSION WILL DIE |
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My husband and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary in March, and our love for one another has
increased over the years instead of waning. Even more, the passion we first had? It is NOTHING
compared to what we have now. That is the way it should be. You should be more in love and far more
passionate with your spouse now than when you were first married.
Many times that is not the way it is. Many couples end up living in the same house but are strangers.
They have become “roommates” instead of the passionate couple they started out being. They let it
drop, if they ever had it in the first place.
God did NOT intend marriage to be the way. He first started out saying that it is not good for man to be
alone (Gen. 2:18). He further stated that He would bring a “help meet”. I think because we don’t know
what that word means we don’t realize the value God placed on women.
A help meet, or helper, is someone who is: to surround, i.e. protect or aid: --help, succour (succor). I like
the word succor even more - to run to the rescue, bring aid, something that furnishes relief. If a woman
can see herself in that position, she will begin to understand that God obviously believes that a man will
need this aid, rescue, help, and relief. She is his helper, necessary to ensure a marriage works.
The Lord further commanded that as husband and wife, we should cleave (cling) to each other and
become one flesh (Gen 2:24). God never intended a husband and wife to live separate lives. We need
one another, and we should be a vital part of our spouse's life in every area. God is all about passion
and fire. He is passionate about us, His children. He created sex as an integral part of marriage and
never meant for those flames to die down.
In the child–rearing years, it is easy to lose the togetherness we experienced before we had children. But
the children grow up and leave home, and we could find ourselves facing our mate and suddenly realizing
that we are strangers. This is especially true if life has revolved around the children. Women are
especially guilty of focusing so much on the children they leave their men out in the cold. Ladies, that is
a very dangerous place to leave your man hanging out.
I want to encourage you as husband and wife to always take some alone time with each other. Don’t
mock “date night” – make one! It is important to do the things you used to do to keep the passion going
in your marriage. It's important to keep that foundation strong. You might think you can't afford to take
the time but the truth is, you can't afford not to take the time!
For those who have found themselves in the predicament of living separate lives, I encourage you to
renew your love for each other. Do the things you used to do to show your love for each other. What did
you used to do to spark the passion in your relationship? Do that again. Focus on one another with
intensity! Reignite the fire in your marriage, and you will find yourselves falling in love all over again!
It isn’t easy if you’ve let the fire die down. You may be tired and stressed from working and made that an
excuse or first priority. Or you may have let so many things get in the way that you’ve forgotten how you
used to be passionate. Start small. Talk to your mate about the passion you used to have. Together,
make a commitment to do the things that spark that passion. Change your dress attire, look good, smell
good, flirt! You can do this – and you will be very surprised what happens when you change your focus
from other junk back onto your mate.
increased over the years instead of waning. Even more, the passion we first had? It is NOTHING
compared to what we have now. That is the way it should be. You should be more in love and far more
passionate with your spouse now than when you were first married.
Many times that is not the way it is. Many couples end up living in the same house but are strangers.
They have become “roommates” instead of the passionate couple they started out being. They let it
drop, if they ever had it in the first place.
God did NOT intend marriage to be the way. He first started out saying that it is not good for man to be
alone (Gen. 2:18). He further stated that He would bring a “help meet”. I think because we don’t know
what that word means we don’t realize the value God placed on women.
A help meet, or helper, is someone who is: to surround, i.e. protect or aid: --help, succour (succor). I like
the word succor even more - to run to the rescue, bring aid, something that furnishes relief. If a woman
can see herself in that position, she will begin to understand that God obviously believes that a man will
need this aid, rescue, help, and relief. She is his helper, necessary to ensure a marriage works.
The Lord further commanded that as husband and wife, we should cleave (cling) to each other and
become one flesh (Gen 2:24). God never intended a husband and wife to live separate lives. We need
one another, and we should be a vital part of our spouse's life in every area. God is all about passion
and fire. He is passionate about us, His children. He created sex as an integral part of marriage and
never meant for those flames to die down.
In the child–rearing years, it is easy to lose the togetherness we experienced before we had children. But
the children grow up and leave home, and we could find ourselves facing our mate and suddenly realizing
that we are strangers. This is especially true if life has revolved around the children. Women are
especially guilty of focusing so much on the children they leave their men out in the cold. Ladies, that is
a very dangerous place to leave your man hanging out.
I want to encourage you as husband and wife to always take some alone time with each other. Don’t
mock “date night” – make one! It is important to do the things you used to do to keep the passion going
in your marriage. It's important to keep that foundation strong. You might think you can't afford to take
the time but the truth is, you can't afford not to take the time!
For those who have found themselves in the predicament of living separate lives, I encourage you to
renew your love for each other. Do the things you used to do to show your love for each other. What did
you used to do to spark the passion in your relationship? Do that again. Focus on one another with
intensity! Reignite the fire in your marriage, and you will find yourselves falling in love all over again!
It isn’t easy if you’ve let the fire die down. You may be tired and stressed from working and made that an
excuse or first priority. Or you may have let so many things get in the way that you’ve forgotten how you
used to be passionate. Start small. Talk to your mate about the passion you used to have. Together,
make a commitment to do the things that spark that passion. Change your dress attire, look good, smell
good, flirt! You can do this – and you will be very surprised what happens when you change your focus
from other junk back onto your mate.